A few weeks ago Nieske and Claudio completed ‘Mindful with your Toddler’ with their two daughters. For 9 weeks I came into their home to teach. This is what they have to say about doing the course as a family.
Claudio: “I would recommend this to every family. I am surprised myself. I was sceptical at first, life is busy especially as we are moving within a few months. But the sessions felt like taking a holiday, spending time together as a family. And in the evenings, instead of watching Netflix or reading a book alone, you link together, doing the exercises or meditating together.
To be happy and feel good as a parent, you need go out of your comfort zone. Learn to be mindful within yourself and connected to your partner. Therefore we both wish to keep exercising.”
Nieske: “The most important take away from this course for me is the awareness of seeing us as a family of four, together as a mini universe with its own dynamics. Before the course started I was focused on my relations and links with each family member only. I was very judgemental and non-forgiving towards myself and my partner. The course has made me feel, see and learn how to be non-judging and compassionate and it has brought us all so much closer. We are now facing each other and holding hands, rather than each of us looking in to a different direction.”
Have you seen changes in these past 9 weeks?
Claudio: “Yes, I am able to speak a bit more openly about our challenges and struggles as a family. I am able to make some time to myself and to my family. I am able to meditate a bit. It is not easy to open about emotions, feelings and sensations. But I learned that opening up can be fun too. I benefit from mindfulness to slow down, being less anxious and more focused, and also to be more aware of the present time with my daughters. ”
Nieske: “Yes, I have seen and mostly felt changes in the past 9 weeks. We were fortunate to do the program with the entire family. My partner and I seemed to have become more present in moments with our daughters, which makes that we seem to better listen and respond their needs. We now enjoy to slow down and do the bath ritual in the evening with laughter or clean the kitchen after dinner whilst having fun. When my partner and I get agitated and respond to each other in a grumpy way, we more quickly realise that we can change our attitude and tone which changes dynamics instantly. I am more aware of my own feelings and reactions to my eldest daughter and have become better at recognising and changing my patterns and habits of just being angry with her.”
What was the added value to do the ourse as a family?
Nieske: “It was not only nice to do the course as a family; having time together and tuning in to oneanother it was also nice to do the homework and readings together with my partner. We were able to speak about it together and feel and see the differences at the same time, although in our own way and pace. I felt like I did not have to explain myself into depth or I felt I did not have to defend myself for doing this course. We both started a new journey. Having been able to do this course as a family feels like it amplifies the power of the course.”
What can you say about the trainer?
Nieske: “I loved doing te course with Loes. I felt secure and comfortable. Loes guided us throughout the course and with the personal intake at home she was even able to make my partner comfortable enough for him to decide to join in. My daughters enjoyed her company too. She has a wonderful voice, asks sharp questions, responds spot on, speaks with a lot of nuances and details and can explain both theory and is sensitive to feelings.
What would you say to other parents?
Claudio: “Give it a try you don’t have anything to lose. Actually you will gain more for participating in this programme and your family would benefit greatly from it.”
Thank you Claudio and Nieske!
Would you like to do a course as a family? Look on mindfulmetjekindje.nl for more information.